Having a baby who needs oxygen really sucks for many reasons. First of all, the baby hates it because it's so uncomfortable with a hard thing in their nose and tape all over their face and a tube tugging all the time. But much worse is the fact that your adorable baby now has something covering their cute little face...something that makes them look like they're sick. So instead of people saying "What a cute baby" they ask "What's wrong with your baby?" and that just sucks. When Benny first got prescribed oxygen I really freaked out. At first I just despaired that there was no way we could do this. Then I pulled myself out of it and tried every different method of keeping the cannula on his face that I could find - paper tape, tender grips, cannulas that claimed they were softer on a babies face...none of them worked very well. Benny hated it, I hated it, our whole family hated it. Finally I reached out to everyone I knew who had ever had a baby on oxygen. Since we live more than a mile above sea level, that’s actually a lot more people than you might think. I got a lot of advice. One mom shared that to keep from tripping over the long oxygen tubes running from the concentrator in an upstairs bedroom to her living room she used cable concealers and multiple tubes. We were very excited about this idea, and my husband immediately ran out to a home improvement store and bought a kit. Another method someone showed me for dealing with the great oxygen tube tangle problem is to use a pacifier clip to hold the oxygen tube at a loop at your belt buckle like this: Soon after these great discoveries, a very experienced Oxygen Mom came over and showed me all of her tricks. She showed me how to cut up pieces of Tegaderm Film and apply it at the temples and behind the ears to keep the nasal cannula in place. This was much easier on his skin than the "Tender Grips" bandages, which ripped his skin off when removed, making him scream in pain and leaving bright red painful circles on his sensitive newborn skin. She also showed me how to snake the tubing down his outfit so that it wouldn’t get caught and accidentally strangle him. She told me that I could request small tanks and a backpack from the oxygen supply company, which allowed us to be much more mobile. (Surprisingly the oxygen supply company hadn’t bothered to tell us or supply us with one until we requested it. They had only given us giant tanks to lug around) With the little tanks we felt liberated. We were even able to use slings and front carriers and go for walks. An emergency hospital stay led to some further insights on how to make Benny's oxygen use more comfortable. While we were there a nurse told us about a nasal gel we could put on his nose to keep it from getting too dried out. We also discovered that having a humidifier on his oxygen line really helped with his comfort. We asked if we could take home the bottle they had used in the hospital to add to his line at home. Unfortunately, Benny was nearly drowned when my husband accidentally tipped the water over into his oxygen line. After that we decided to take it off until we could get a proper system. During the drowning incident we also decided to come up with a better system for keeping his nasal cannula on. My sister Josephine was visiting, and helped me to modify some of his knit hats so that we could tie the tubes up over his ears and then cinch it under his chin. This had the effect of keeping the nasal cannula in place and the hat on at the same time. It was also easy to remove, so that if there were ever another incident where we needed to remove the cannula quickly we could. The first hat that I modified I simply cut a couple of holes on either side of the hat and used pipe cleaners to hold the tubes in place. It worked really well and also looked really cute, but I was afraid that the pipe cleaners might accidentally poke his head if I used them at night. I happen to live by a yarn shop, and Josephine stopped by to see if she could find a good material to use. The shop owner helped her select a yarn that was not too stretchy, so that it would stay in place well, and a yarn needle. Sewing the yarn onto the hats is really simple and only takes about a minute to do once you have a yarn needle and yarn. We shot a little video to show how, but the files corrupted somehow, so I’ll have to reshoot it and post it later. In the meantime, here are some pictures with directions on how to create your own cannula holding hat: Soon after we created the modified hat system, Benny had to take another emergency trip to the hospital. Everyone commented on how cute and functional his hat was! We also made another discovery. He happened to be wearing a pair of snap down footy pajamas the day he needed to go the hospital. We discovered that in the snappy pjs, he was able to remain clothed despite having tons of wires and tubes running all over him for monitoring. This discovery came in handy later when he had heart surgery. We stocked up on snap and button down pajamas beforehand, as well as leg warmers. It's silly little things like this that can make a hospital stay so much more comfortable. Knit hats get loose after a day or two of wear, so if you try the hat system I recommend either making many knit hats and washing them often, or using a sun hat. If you are not the DIY type, there is a company that sells hats, o2kidslids.com. We bought a hat from there as well, and it worked great other than that I hadn’t ordered the right size, so it was a bit big on Benny. With all of these tricks, I quickly became a pro at keeping Benny oxygenated in style and comfort. Still, it was a big relief when he finally started keeping his levels up on his own. How easy life seemed without all of the tubes and tanks and machines that came with the oxygen. Recently we got a call that Benny’s sleep study had shown his oxygen saturations levels dropping below 90 over half of the time. Our doctor recommended putting him back on oxygen full time for a month. I was devastated. We had all enjoyed the freedom without oxygen and the idea of having to do it all again seemed like torture. Today is the first day I’m going to leave my house with Benny since having to put him back on oxygen. I am bracing myself for it as I had really been enjoying just having a baby. A cute, healthy-looking baby. A baby whose health condition I didn’t have to explain if I didn’t feel like it. A baby who came just with a diaper bag and a car seat, not all of the normal baby stuff plus a backpack, tanks, tubes and all the various oxygen tank accessories. This was one of the hardest blog posts I’ve written because I really wanted to be cheerful and upbeat about having a baby on oxygen, but I don’t feel that way. Having any kind of baby is hard. Having a sick baby just sucks. It doesn’t mean I love Benny any less because he has health problems, it just means that sometimes I have days where I just don’t want to go outside. I don’t want to explain to the kind, curious strangers that no, my baby wasn’t a preemie, that he has Down syndrome and is recovering from a heart defect and that’s why he’s on oxygen. But he does and they will, and maybe my going outside with my baby and his oxygen tank will help somebody else feel like it’s okay too. Maybe my writing this post will help other parents who are going through this to know that they’re not alone, and that it is doable even if it does suck. I hope so. Please let me know if you have any suggestions for parents who have a baby on oxygen that I didn't include here, and if you know parents who could use this information do share this with them. Thank you!
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Georgia Ryan
2/11/2015 10:40:32 pm
Taymar,
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Arianne
2/13/2015 02:22:28 am
My full term baby had craniosynostosis and de sats (unknown caused and now still on o2 at 5 1/2 months old). Everything you said I feel everyday, although now we can at least have the o2 off during the day, but he has had cranial surgery and us now in a helmet. It's hard, very hard and I understand what you are going through.
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Taymar
4/8/2015 06:55:22 am
Thanks Arianne, I hope your little one is doing well.
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Melanie
10/4/2017 10:09:54 am
Hi Arianne,
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Alana Simmons
10/5/2017 12:55:41 am
I just saw Melanie's post, so that's why I'm responding now. I urge all of you guys with these issues to join the FB group, "my child has sleep apnea" that one of the moms started. Even if your kiddo doesn't have apnea per se, but is still dealing with these issues - oxygen, tape, keeping cannula on, etc. - the FB group is really useful. I feel like it's easier to send queries to other members than on this forum, too.
Emily
2/22/2015 02:15:42 am
my 30 weeker will be 1 in less then 2 weeks and is still holding strong needing oxygen. I hadn't known either about the small tanks till a few months ago. I have broken 2 toes and now have a home fill system. I find it easier at home not having to lug around tanks, and the backpack being the best for when we are out. It almost makes me fell like he isn't on oxygen. I'm just so thankful to have him here (my water broke at 17 weeks) that he's worth the lugging. When people ask(which they usually do) I have say that there's nothing wrong. If they continue I tell them he's a miracle and shouldn't have been here and he just needs a little help breathing, but is otherwise very healthy. The tubing is just out why of life. He and I don't know any different. Our family has adjusted and I think it will be weird and hard to let go when he does come off (it comforts me knowing he has it, like a safety
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Taymar
4/8/2015 06:58:18 am
It's funny how we adjust to these things. Our little miracles do make it all worth it, and I suppose we do appreciate them more for all of the extra work it is, like a pistachio or an artichoke. :)
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Philipp
5/12/2015 11:28:37 pm
hey, thanks for sharing your experiences and thoughts! Very inspiring and helpful! I am actually working on my MA degree on how to improve oxygen therapy for infants and their parents... since this patient group is usually left out in the market... I study product design in sweden. Would it be possible to contact you during my project via email regarding some questions and ideas I have? Thanks!
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Katie McDonald
3/27/2016 07:38:35 pm
Has your research come up with anything new??
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Taymar
12/18/2017 01:07:55 pm
I contacted Philipp but haven't heard anything back, not sure if the email went through. I'm hoping to reach out to more product developers to get better products developed, is you know of anyone interested in that kind of work please put them in touch with me. I have a contact form on this site, and my cell phone number is 619-990-5773.
Rebecca, RN
10/29/2015 07:55:23 am
I LOVE the hat idea!! I am taking care of a 6 month old with oxygen - in the home. She keeps rubbing off the various tape products we've tried. Tegaderm, duoderm, medipore tape... Would love some other tried and true suggestions!
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Taymar
3/31/2016 04:43:02 pm
Thanks Rebecca! The hat is so simple and helpful. Another product I've discovered recently that works well is Nexcare tape. It doesn't seem to rip up the skin like the other kinds of tape. I am going to update my post soon to include it. Here's a link to it on Amazon in case you are interested, it is also available at any pharmacy: http://www.amazon.com/Nexcare-Sensitive-Skin-Tape-Count/dp/B00B4UDXBI
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Jeni J
1/19/2016 07:33:07 pm
Thanks for sharing your journey with Benny. My son also has Down syndrome and requires oxygen 24/7. There are times when he has not needed it, but more than not, he is on it. I have all those same feelings. I have used the 02kidlids for a while now, but DH has been complaining that he wants something different. He bought a baseball style hat. I was looking for ideas of how to attach ties or fasteners to the side.
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Taymar
3/31/2016 04:51:36 pm
Thanks for reading Jeni. If you have any pictures of your baseball style hat cannula holder I would love to see them! You can find me on Twitter or instagram as tmpixley. :)
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2/24/2016 04:18:32 am
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Lisa
3/19/2016 08:06:35 pm
Thank you so much for sharing this information. I came home with my 35 week old 2 weeks ago. She has a small heart defect and because we're at high elevation she's on oxygen. It's looking like she's going to be on it until she's at little past full term. I can't tell you how much I appreciate your tips appreciated tricks. It's not atppreciatendn easy process. It's good to know I'm not the only one out there trying to find a better way to deal with a tough situation.
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Katie
3/27/2016 07:43:11 pm
Lisa, Are you by chance in Denver? I am trying really hard to build a support system here :)
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Katie McDonald
3/27/2016 07:40:43 pm
Thanks for sharing. I need to figure out this hat thing. I think we might be in the same area. I am in Denver and dealing with Apria has been quite a nightmare. Right now I am literally taping the tubing to my baby girl with medical tape because they are out of most of their supplies.
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Lisa
3/27/2016 08:53:14 pm
Hi Katie. I'm in Colorado too. I'm so sorry for what you're dealing with. I've struggled with Summit and thought about switching to Apria. I'm glad I didn't. I was able to find a lot of support on a Moms Facebook group for my area. One of the moms is a NICU nurse and has helped me a lot. Pease feel free to pm me on Facebook. My user name is Shutterbug Lisa.
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Taymar
3/31/2016 04:40:00 pm
Hi, there are a lot of great groups in the Denver area. Have you contacted the Rocky Mountain Down Syndrome Association? They have a list of all the groups in the area. I am happy to meet with you sometime too, and to share resources. I recently discovered this tape from another mom in my local Down syndrome group and it is great! I need to update my post to include it as it doesn't rip up the skin and is available at regular pharmacies and even grocery stores like Kingsoopers. It's called Nexcare and is blue. Here's a link to it on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Nexcare-Sensitive-Skin-Tape-Count/dp/B00B4UDXBI
Ally
4/5/2016 04:06:21 pm
Oh my gosh, Apria is THE WORST!!
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Taymar
4/20/2016 12:39:11 pm
Apria really is the worst! Good to know that Major Medical Supply is a good alternative option, thanks for sharing.
Megan Whitfield
10/24/2017 08:42:22 pm
Hi, I know this is a little old but my 1 year old has been on oxygen for the last 4 months. We had her sleeping in a baby lounger so she didn't roll around and mess with it for the first couple of months.... moms with younger babies this might also work for you. The one we used was the "daydreamer". Now that she's older and we've moved her to her crib it's been a nightmare...she is all over her crib and rubs her face in the mattress to get the cannula out. I so paranoid that she will get wrapped up in it that I usually just leave it off if she messes with it to much.its too bad the health care folks don't do a better job training us on these things.... I live in Denver too and agree that Apria is really bad. If you all have found a good support group i would really appreciate it. We are supposed to start cpap soon which will be a whole other can of worms. Pretty overwhelmed!
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Jodi
4/7/2016 08:20:00 pm
I'm so happy to have stumbled on this post! My little 4 month old also has Down syndrome. He has pulmonary hypertension secondary to bad sleep apnea. He's been on oxygen for two months for nighttime/naps but we were just told
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Taymar
4/20/2016 12:38:06 pm
I'm so glad that this post helped you, thank you for your comment. I hope it has gotten easier for you. Know that you are not alone.
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MK
4/17/2016 09:16:49 am
Great article thank you!
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Dani S
4/19/2016 07:26:07 pm
Between nexcare tape and an O2 kid lid, so far we have been able to keep the cannula on my 12 week old with sleep apnea. This morning I woke up to him having the cannula around his neck and he managed to get his arms out of his swaddle sack. I don't think we are going to be able to swaddle much longer. Do you have any suggestions to stop him from pulling the cannula off? I'm dreading his hands being free at night!
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Taymar
2/7/2017 01:14:31 pm
Hi Dani, I imagine you've found a solution by now, but it is definitely a tricky thing keeping oxygen on at night, and it's scary when the baby gets tangled up in their tubes. I ran the tube down the front instead of the back so if he did get the cannula off he wouldn't get strangled. Putting socks on little hands can help prevent the cannula from getting pulled out, but it is a challenge. Did you find any solutions that worked?
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After we couldn't swaddle anymore, we started using a zippadee zip. With his hands covered, he has a harder time pulling it out. I had to sew a buttonhole in the bottom of the zippadee zip so it could run down and come out the bottom. When he started sitting and standing in the crib, he ended up wrapping the tubing around his neck even when the cannula stayed in his nose. Is Benny still on oxygen?
Molly Hanson
6/8/2016 10:31:11 pm
I'm so glad I found this blog! We live in Denver too and my 7.5 month old still wears o2 at night. He has trachamalcia and has had o2 since 8 weeks. I feel so lost sometimes about what to do and wish there were support groups locally for his condition or just for babies wearing o2. Maybe I missed it seeing it in other posts, but if there's something, I'd love to know. He is still swaddled fully so he won't pull the canula off, but keeps waking up due to wanting to roll over. I'm at a loss what to do. Any suggestions?
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Taymar
6/9/2016 07:31:00 am
There is not a support group for families of babies and children on oxygen that I know of, but that's a great idea! I'm moving from Colorado myself, so I encourage you to start a group yourself. You could set it up on Facebook or just create an email account and then ask your medical providers to share the info with other families. If you decide to start one and let me know I can help spread the word.
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Sarah
1/7/2017 02:13:41 pm
Have you tried love to dream arms up swaddles? They work for me (mostly)
Rachel
8/25/2016 07:19:04 pm
Hi Molly, I was reading this great blog and wanted to introduce myself since it seems like I'm having a lot of the same struggles you are. My son has laryngomalacia and had surgery on his airway and now is on oxygen 24/7. He's almost three months old, and I'm having the same issues with swaddling. He's pulling his arms out of the sack and somehow removing his cannula at night. Have you found anything that works? I'm in Colorado Springs.
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Dani
8/25/2016 11:41:43 pm
Hi Rachel,
Alana Simmons
1/8/2017 01:01:51 am
Hi Molly - I'm wondering if you're still swaddling your son plus if he's still on the oxygen. I'd love to be in a support group or email chain for other parents of babies on O2. My email is [email protected] if anyone wants to reach out.
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Lyndon
6/29/2016 05:30:27 am
Thank you for this post. Dealing with the same issues!
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Karina
10/4/2016 07:01:30 pm
I enjoyed your post. Try ultra thin duoderm under the tegaderm. It's less harsh on the skin than just tegaderm. I just ordered the sensitive grips for my daughters cannula. I was hoping they would be less harsh on her skin but sounds like it may not the case from your blog. We will see.
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Alana Simmons
10/24/2016 12:31:34 am
Thank you so much for doing this post. It is very encouraging to know that we aren't alone.
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Hi Alana,
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Sara
6/30/2019 07:12:18 am
Hi! My baby was a premie and at 38 weeks we needed up back at the hospital to find out my son has Laryngomalacia as well and sleep apnea. He’s 41 weeks now so 1 week post term. He’s on oxygen 24/7. Can you share some information on your experience please? The doctors are telling me it should go away by the time he’s 2 years old but I am having a hard time adjusting to it
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Becki
10/31/2016 12:03:12 pm
Thank you so much for posting this blog! I'm in tears from several days of replacing cannula tape every few hours as my baby keeps ripping it off in frustration. I am going to go make those hats right now! I hope that your baby is doing much better now and is off oxygen.
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Alana Simmons
10/31/2016 10:43:32 pm
Hi Dani -
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That would be wonderful if the company comes out with a zipper that goes down. I considered making one, but I have been short on crafting time since going back to work. Just this past Friday night my fear came true. I came home from working night shift to find my little guy with the oxygen tubing wrapped around his neck 4 times. Talk about scary! I'm just thankful he was okay. Let me know if you see the new style zipadeezip released!
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Hazim
12/17/2016 08:16:59 am
Thanks for sharing.. I also have a child with oxygen supply and I share the same problems with the adhesive tapes.. doctors still can't figure out the reason he desats.. my God give us all the strength to cope.
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Alana Simmons
12/22/2016 01:38:35 am
Here's an update about my now 7.5 month old. He had another sleep study but still has central apnea (and some, but much improved, obstructive), plus he is still desatting. So, we'll stay on the oxygen at least until he's one year old.
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Alana Simmons
1/8/2017 12:56:09 am
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mccclain
2/4/2017 07:41:20 pm
Hi,
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Hi there!
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McClain Robertson
2/7/2017 10:23:13 am
Hi Dani,
Hi McClain,
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McClain
4/6/2017 07:47:05 pm
Hi Dani, How is your son doing? I wanted to let you know owlet just came out with a new sock that is open over the toes, -and can be used on either foot and fits so much better. Walker is now over 23lbs and it's worked well. And exciting news in our home- as of today his pulmonologist said he's ready to be off oxygen! I feel like a little kid on Christmas morning I've been so happy and excited. But I also feel much better going into tonight with the Owlet on! -and we did an overnight pulse ox test thru the Dr 2 2 weeks ago with no oxygen and although he dipped into the 80s he came back up quickly. They said he still has sleep apnea and will hopefully grow out of it but can recover well. Hope this is it for nasal cannulas and all that crap. And hope you have the same soon too! Wish I could attach a pic but don't see how. My husband got the cutest little cake to celebrate tonight :)
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Taymar
4/11/2017 09:33:26 am
Congratulations on getting Walker off oxygen!! Great news about the Owlet sock, we were one of their beta testers early on, so it's great to see that they are still improving their product. I'm not sure how to attach a picture either, I would love to see one. I'm working on setting up a group for this topic to make it easier to share tips and pics, I will keep you posted. That is wonderful that Walker can come off oxygen! Raylan had a sleep study that showed a significant improvement in his sleep apnea, but he still will need the oxygen for sleep. I will definitely look into ordering the new version of the sock. I ended up cancelling the pre-order of the other monitor because it got pushed out another few months. For anyone interested, I did create a Facebook group that you are welcome to join! I think it will be a great place for connecting. https://www.facebook.com/groups/142644329580028/
Sara
9/12/2017 11:03:59 am
thank you all for sharing - i am in denver too and dealing with altitude oxygen. all these tips are sooooooo helpful. just requested to join fb group too.
ArI
3/16/2017 02:47:54 pm
I am glad I found this! Every group thread is from years ago! I love some of these ideas thanks everyone. Our issue however is that our daughter is now pulling the prongs out abd down into her mouth and sucking/chewing on them from teething. I try to offer her different things but it's like the cannula is her security blanket instead of just her thumb. Anyone else having this issue? Emery is our baby girl and she was born at 25 weeks and has had oxygen since we came home from the NICU in Nov 2016. She had a pda ligation and has pulmonary hypertension from that and only needs the oxygen whole she sleeps.
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Taymar
4/11/2017 09:30:50 am
Hi Ari,
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Kerry
4/6/2017 04:00:17 pm
I'm in Northumberland in the UK - my daughter is on home oxygen after being born three months early. Thanks for all these tips, they are most helpful. I'm desperate for her oxygen not to look as obvious. I'd be grateful for any tips on securing oxygen tanks when travelling by car if anyone can help! Xxx
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Taymar
4/11/2017 09:46:09 am
Hi Kerry! I hear you on wanting a more elegant oxygen solution for babies, and it is something I have been working on and will keep you posted on. I found using a cute hat to hold the tubing in place helped with the cuteness/visibility factor. As far as car rides, I found the smaller oxygen tanks with the backpack helped with mobility for short outings. You might have to request it from the oxygen supply company, they did not even mention it to us as an option we found out from a friend, so that might be the case for you as well. For longer outings in the car, a larger tank and some kind of portable pulse ox like the owlet sock is helpful. You can just prop the tank below the car seat in the space where feet would normally go. It is all a huge pain, and thankfully most likely very temporary. Hugs and congratulations on your new baby girl!
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Sarah
10/29/2018 01:28:44 pm
I know this a bit old now - not sure if anyone is still using this thread. When you say the owelt is a "portable pulse ox" - can you use it on the go (like actually in the car)? I have heard mixed things but am about ready to trash the table top pulse ox we got from the home medical supply company.
Taymar Pixleysmith
11/1/2018 05:00:39 pm
Hi Sarah, yes, the owlet is completely portable. It's a little smart shoe the baby wears on their foot and you connect to it via an app on your phone. It was such a relief to have a portable, easy solution for monitoring your baby's oxygen levels, I highly recommend it.
Christy
6/1/2017 08:46:00 am
Hello we have a 9 year old on oxygen ( his whole life). We use this tape called mepitac it is the only thing that doesn't mess up his very sensitive skin. Just so you know fortunately as they get older it gets little easier because he can know carry his on o2 tank in a backpack... he is on small flow and I found these small tanks about the size of 20oz soda bottle and they last him couple hours. He can go out now and ride a bike by himself.
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Taymar
6/7/2017 04:34:59 pm
Thanks for sharing that Christy, I have not hear of Mepitac, I will have to look into that. Good to hear that he can be independent on oxygen.
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Melanie
6/25/2017 09:57:52 am
Hey there, I know this post isn't too recent, but just wanted to say thank you so much for all this information! We just had to put our 2 week old on o2 a couple days ago and have been feeling so upset and daunted by the prospect of dealing with it all. It's such a relief to know there are ways to make it easier. We are going to try the nexcare tape and hats today. I'm also excited to know there are smaller backpack o2 tanks! I was so sad that I wouldn't be able to wear him with the oxygen. Thank you again so much!
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Taymar
8/16/2017 02:58:49 pm
Hi Melanie, so glad to hear that this post helped you with your own oxygen journey. Thanks for sharing!
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Alana Simmons
6/25/2017 04:59:06 pm
Some of us are still here! Be sure to join the FB group Dani started (link in a few posts above)... we keep each other updated on the sleep studies and statuses of our little ones, plus discuss traveling with O2 (now done 3 trips on 2 different airlines!)... I personally didn't find the hat that useful, but we still use the Nexcare tape. My son is almost 14 months now and our recent study shows he still needs the oxygen... good luck to you!
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Taymar
8/16/2017 03:01:27 pm
Hi Alana, that's awesome that you started a FB group! I hear you on the hat, I found it worked really well when Benny was smaller, but as he got more mobile and the cannula could slip around more easily we had to also use tape.
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Angie Uma
7/21/2017 08:08:50 pm
I'm so glad I found this blog, I started feeling very depressed and lonely, didn't even want to talk to close friends because no one can understand my situation. Long story short, my baby girl Olivia was born full term via c sectiin on May 22, 2017 with pulmonary hypertension and small holes in her heart. After two weeks in our local hospital she didn't show any improvements and we were airlifted to Gainsville, Shands Children's hospital. She underwent cardiac catherization procedure to find out what the problem was without any success. She was put on various medications such as steroids via iv injections, antibiotics, other medicine I don't remember, and all kinds of tests like EKG, Ct scan, x rays, you name it, she had it all, and still no clue of the cause of hypertension. One of the pulmanologists suggested she has a lung desease, abnormal surfactants, so they started a treatment for that particular desease, meanwhile sending her blood to the genetic institute in Boston. Her condition was "stable" at the hospital with the help of oxygen and some medication so finally, after 5 weeks in both hospitals combined she was sent home with the oxygen ventilator, and other equipment to monitor her heart rate and oxygen level, also on three different medications, one of them cost over 6 gramd. Little we knew our troubles were far from over when we received genetic test result from Boston. Turned out she didn't have what doctors thought she had, instead she has a lung desease so rare, there are only about 200 cases are known in the whole world since this desease was discovered in 80s, it's called alveolar capillary displasia with misalignment of capillary veins. The doctor who broke the news to us looked at us funny and told us there is no cure, no studies about the desease, it's 100% fatal, and he is not sure why she is still alive because usually infants only live a few days and are diagnosed post mortem. The weird thing is, she looks super healthy, she eats like a champion, gained almost 4 lb in two month of her life, her diaper content is normal, she is very active and on track with her development. So here we are, having a normal looking baby at home on oxygen and one of the medicines, the expensive one, that we had to pay over 2 grand out of pocket for a 60 day supply, tens of thousands of dollars in bills for staying 5 weeks in two hospitals, and still don't know what the future holds. The only treatment is a lung transplant, and it's only 50% chance of survival and normal existence afterwords. They also considered doing biopsy, but it's a very dangerous procedure for such a little baby. I still have my suitcases in a closet nearby just in case we have to go back and stay for awhile. I'm most certain that after my 4 month maternity leave is over with, I would have to quit my job because no one will be comfortable caring for a baby on oxygen, even her own grandma. I will be worried sick about her too, she can't even catch a cold without being hospitalized because she won't be able to breeze through her nose. My husband already started working second job to pay all the bills and we are selling some property to pay for medical bills. And we have two older boys, one in elementary and one in a middle school, that I have no idea how we will be managing dropping off and picking up from school s. Having that damn outdated oxygen equipment is so inconvenient and frustrating. You think, with all the modern technology they would come up with something wireless or lighter in weight so it's easier to manage. We had to get a double stroller to fit all the pieces in, she has 15 pound oxiden concentrator, flow monitor metal box, monitor that constantly goes off because she kicks her feet or repositions her body, and long cords with heavy power adapters. Try to load it up in and out of the car! Besides, someone needs to stay with her on the back seat to monitor her equipment and watch her, so forget about me getting out of my house any time soon for anything unless my husband is home. There is no way I'm taking her anywhere on my own with all that crap attached to her. Besides, I hate it when people make comments, any comments, even nice ones will irritate me. I'm glad I read some tips about how to keep her cannulas in place, what kind of tape to buy, because she hates it a pulls it off every day. That's why our bassinet doesn't work for us anymore, we have spent hours at night holding her hands, standing over the bassinet. The only solution that works for us is a co sleeper bed that we put between us in our king size bed, so we can hold her hands when she pulls a huddini, frees her hands and pulls her cannulas off over and over and over. That way we can keep a close eye on her at any time. We found one on Amazon that is kind of oversized so she can grow in to it, she is a big baby, very long. There is no way I'm letting her sleep in the crib. So this is my story, we are very new at this, just figuring everything out and
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Taymar
8/16/2017 03:08:12 pm
Hi Angie,
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I wanted to come back and write you a comment saying how thankful I really was for this post and tell you YOU SAVED OUR CHILD. Last year our surviving DS twin (who was born 3 months early and spent almost five months in NICU) finally came home on oxygen awaiting for heart operation. We took her home without being trained on how to react to emergencies, no information was given just relaid on what I observed first hand during her stay in NICU. We were so happy that finally we'll be home and live normally at least for a while. Before being discharged I read many articles on home oxygen care and this post came up. I took note of what you said here: "Unfortunately, Benny was nearly drowned when my husband accidentally tipped the water over into his oxygen line." THAT happened during the first 5 minutes we were home. I just entered the bedroom carrying my baby in my arms and a backbag with small oxygen in it. I just sat down and decided to put the bag on the floor and thats when it happened. I immediately heard the water going into the tube and removed it from her nose. Yes I was panicking but I acted on the information I read here that this could happen. It was longest 4 minutes of my entire life. but thankfully we connected her to the oxygen generator. she spent 3 and half wonderful months at home before she caught an infection that sent her to PICU for four months,got better then got a tracheostomy and heart fix was too risky so she was on comfort care the last 2 months of her life. she passed away April 2017.
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Taymar
8/16/2017 02:57:15 pm
Thank you for sharing your story. It made me cry to hear about your loss, but I'm so glad to hear that by sharing my story I was able to give you two more months with your precious daughter. I am currently working on some ideas for creating better oxygen wear for babies, as well as to create a better online community and more support for parents around this topic. Thanks for inspiring me to continue working on this important mission.
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Erin
9/8/2017 05:32:05 pm
I'm so thankful I stumbled across this article! My daughter spent 30 days in the St. Louis Children's Nicu for obstructive and central apnea of prematurity, though she was considered term at 37 weeks. She was desat and have bradycardia while feeding and resting. I cried every day while there and blamed myself for the possibility that my Type 1 Diabetes may have something to do with it. They finally sent us home but with oxygen and a pulse oximeter. I still get very emotional and frustrated with it all. I took her to the pediatrician recently and got my first look of pity from a friend. I know it was not meant to hurt me, but you said it perfectly. You want someone to say how cute they are, not ask what's wrong with them. I'm interested in your tape tricks. She constantly rips of her cannulas and the stickers are so harsh on her skin. I'm going to try Tegaderm tonight since that's what I already use on my diabetes sites. She's been on the oxygen for two months now and will be for at least another month until her next sleep study. I pray every night for good results and a normal life, though I know it could be so much worse. Thank you for this blog post!
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10/23/2017 04:39:38 am
Without making efforts you will not able to know about how to use such oxygen tanks at home. It seems like you have a good experience of using this oxygen tank on regular basis.
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Alana Simmons
10/23/2017 09:57:58 pm
I first want to encourage all of you to join the "My Child Has Sleep Apnea" FB group Dani started. It is super helpful on keeping each other informed in a bit of a less cumbersome way than this blog posting.
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Megan Whitfield
10/24/2017 09:29:56 pm
Alana, my lil one just had genetic testing and is also in the DDRC early intervention program. Hope we can catch up on Facebook because I think we have a ton in common with these kiddos. I know the genetic
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Megan Whitfield
10/24/2017 09:15:43 pm
Thank you so much for starting the Facebook group and this discussion! I just requested to join. Only wish I had seen this sooner, so many awesome tips I could e used months ago!! Our little Skyler was diagnosed with severe obstructive sleep apnea at 7 mo.(she also has some central apnea). She had surgery for laryngomalacia when she was 9mo but the doc found tracheomAlacia on the scope as well.
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Emma
12/13/2017 01:22:09 pm
Hi,
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Taymar
12/18/2017 01:06:22 pm
Hi Emmsa, I'm glad that this post was helpful for you. Keeping oxygen on your little one is a challenge, glad this could make it a little easier on you.
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Jennifer
1/31/2018 09:39:23 pm
Just wanted to thank you for this blog. We were so overwhelmed when we learned we’d have to take our daughter home from the hospital on o2, and i first found this thread then. She’s now 4 months old and based on her most recent sleep study has improved greatly but needs to continue on o2 at least a little while longer. As we’re searching for solutions for how to keep her cannula on overnight now that we have to move away from swaddling, I came across this thread again and just wanted to let you know how helpful it is now, and it was then- when things were just a little too intense for me to even think to post!
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Taymar
2/7/2018 11:27:21 am
Thanks Jennifer, it warms my heart to know that this blog post has helped other parents dealing with keeping oxygen on their little ones.
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John
4/25/2018 07:12:06 am
I am deeply moved by your upbeat attitude and your carefulness. Benny is a adorable looking baby and I hope everything goes well for him and he can just run around enjoy stuff without those awful tubes. Sometimes we are made to endure hardness just so we can enjoy the bright side of live more. You are a strong woman and I am very proud of you and Benny.
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Tracey S
5/18/2018 04:28:38 am
Our baby is 9 months old and we just started the oxygen weaning process, and I loved seeing a normal little baby face..... then a recent sleep study showed he has to go back on. I totally get how you feel. Thanks for all the tips. I’ll definitely be googling the nose gel... I didn’t know they made such a thing.
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Ananya
10/10/2018 06:25:48 pm
Hi, Could you please tell me what is the nasal gel you used? And how do you apply it? Thank you.
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Alana Simmons
10/10/2018 11:14:13 pm
We used Ayr nasal gel and just dabbed a bit in my son’s nose. His nose does a lot better now that we have a humidifier hooked up to the oxygen so the air he’s breathing is a bit moist. Also, be sure to get on the My Child Has Sleep Apnea Facebook group for wonderful support from other parents with similar concerns and questions!
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Vv
4/3/2019 05:51:37 pm
I have a preemie on oxygen 24/7. Theses are some things that work for us. Use skin prep pads prior to application of any tape, tender grip, etc. it reduces the redness. Sew small velcro tabs on sleep sacks to put tubing in to keep away from face. Put the tubing going down the back instead of the front. Sew muslin mittens with elastic at the base (they are cooler than socks).
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Holly Alexander
7/1/2019 03:06:05 am
Hello thanks for you’r tips they’re really helpful my baby boy was born at 25 weeks and is still in NUCU at the moment but will soon be off the vapotherm and on oxygen at home I have been terrified and worried thinking about what will happen and how it will work we have a big dog and 2 other kids so am stressing about where it will go and will it be safe 🤦♀️ I know how u feel she. You’re fed up of explaining g yourself ! So many people ask I forget who I’ve updated already and what they already know !! It’s tiring! Btw your baby is absolutely gorgeous 😊
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Amiw
5/16/2020 11:39:36 am
Hi, yes, your post is helpful, even five years later :) My four month old has Down syndrome and CHD and is on oxygen. I have been hoping all along that she would come off soon. But, I have finally decided that I need to accept that it might be awhile, and in the meantime find out some things that work better than staying in the house all day because she is on oxygen.
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Jessica Thompson
6/17/2020 08:08:24 pm
This is a lifesaver!! I stumbled upon this page after my son tore our last tendergrip bandage off his poor red cheeks. The cap stays in place and my son is much more comfortable. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
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Taymar
6/20/2020 08:19:41 pm
Yay! So glad you found this and it helped you.
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Curtis
7/17/2020 01:57:24 pm
Thank you for your info. Our little one is Tri 21 and has heart issues as well. How is your little one doing today? This is such a scary time as he is 9 months old and we are preparing for his fifth procedure (this one open heart)...
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Rachel
11/2/2020 01:39:37 am
Thank you for sharing! We are now finding out our oxygen situations might be a longer term thing than we were initially lead to believe. So excited to try out some of these ideas and read the rest of your blog for additional DS insight.
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Brooke Powell
8/18/2021 10:40:43 pm
Thank you for your realness. It does suck to have a baby on oxygen, there is no other word, I haven’t left my house in weeks. Reading your blog made me cry in a good way. Maybe I’ll actually leave the house tomorrow. Thank you. I need this community
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Taymar
8/19/2021 06:04:05 pm
Hugs, I'm so glad my post helped you. Thanks for taking the time to let me know.
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Kayla
6/25/2022 09:34:58 am
Hello!
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Taymar Pixleysmith
6/30/2022 04:39:34 pm
Hi Kayla,
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